Narcissistic Trauma

Being in relationship with someone who has strong narcissistic tendencies, whether a family member or a partner, it a very disorienting experience. It is easy to lose touch with yourself, with a sense of reality and with other people in your life. After enough time, you may have a hard time knowing where they end and you begin.

Find the way back to yourself

There is a lot of confusion and shame left in the wake of close relationship with a narcissistic personality. Even when you have managed to end contact, feelings of disbelief, foolishness and self-blame are common. There are cycles of selective reminiscing about the intermittent good times and second guessing the decision to end contact. It can feel like the narcissist is still with you, a shadow or a voice inside your head. It takes time and intention to develop trust in your own voice and intuition again.

I want you to know it wasn't your fault. When you are a caring, honest person, it can be hard to conceive of someone operating from such a different perspective. Until you experience something so far outside your frame of reference, it is hard to even imagine that someone could be so selfish, manipulative and deceitful. It can even be hard sometimes for therapists to understand the depth of trauma that happens to your mind and spirit if they haven't had witnessed the dynamics you've survived. You don't have to justify or convince me; I understand because I've lived it. I can help you find language for your experience and more compassionate understanding for yourself.